Stop Doing Stuff You Hate
“How do I stay motivated?”. That’s one of the big questions, isn’t it? There have been more articles, blog posts, videos, and books even dedicated to how one stays motivated to do something, particularly sticking with some sort of exercise routine. There are lists upon lists of suggestions like “play mind games to pass the time”, “make a deal with yourself - only 5 more minutes”, “have a visual reminder”, etc. Basically all variations on trying to trick yourself into liking what you’re doing. Does this seem a little, well, ridiculous, to anyone else?
[I may not like froyo but I do love some giant gluten-free sandwiches]
I mean - I don’t particularly “like” frozen yogurt (I know, I should be cast off from lady blogger land) but I’m also not going to continue to eat and “trick” myself into liking it because it seems like something that I should do. So why do we insist on doing this to ourselves with other things?
[I also really like being covered in tacky, smelling like WD40, and throwing heavy concrete stones around]
How about, instead, we just do stuff we like?
I have a hard time of thinking of a time in recent months when I DIDN’T want to go to the gym. Sure, there are plenty of days when I’m tired, sore, or would love to sleep a few extra hours but truthfully, I really just love doing what I do. I mean, who doesn’t want to go throw around heavy stones, at 6am?! Probably not many people, but I surely do. And that's perfectly fine with me.
I remember days when I forced myself to run miles on miles and eat lettuce because I thought that's what you did. I'm a 20 something year old chick therefore, I should be a vegetarian runner (P.S. NOT a knock on anyone who does those things - they just aren't for me). I didn't like either of those things, in fact, both of those things ended up costing me some health for a period of time. But I thought, that because that's what you did, I should just carry on - rise to the challenge, be content in my utter hate and dislike, find some sort of Pinterest-y motivation in those moments when I think "This is NOT fun. I'm not enjoying this, at.all.". Truth is, that didn't happen. But thankfully, I did manage to get some sense knocked into me and realize that there is a distinct difference between being uncomfortable and truly disliking something.
Sure, to reach whatever goals you set for yourself, you're going to be uncomfortable. That discomfort is part of the process. But, at the end of the day you should feel pretty damn good about what you did, you should look forward to that uncomfortable place because you know it's only a matter of time before you blow right past it. It may not seem like "fun" but it should be something you enjoy.
There really isn’t much more I can add to this topic that hasn’t already been said by the lovely Jen Sinkler. It’s pretty simple - life is too short to do stuff you hate. Especially if that stuff is stuff you CHOSE to do, that you pay money to do, that is supposed to be fun.